What???? How in the world is this legal?

Okay, I know that I haven’t been around here lately, and I’m not making excuses (well, maybe just a little!), but I’m here today!!!  I need to vent and I know all my “fans” are here for me. hehe

Here is my problem.  Why or even how is it possible for someone to be sued when they are protecting children?  Let me explain.

A school bus driver makes many stops during the day either picking up children or dropping children off.  The laws state the distances you need to keep back from a school bus.  Shoot, kids have questions on their driving tests about rules pertaining to school buses. 

Bus drivers, even if they are the driver/owner of the bus, have things they have to do to protect our children, after all, we put our kids in these drivers hands everyday.  So, if there is an incident such as, a car that doesn’t stop when the bus has it’s flashers on, a car that pulls around the bus while it’s stopped, an oncoming car that doesn’t stop when the bus is stopped, or anything else that could put our children in harms way, it is the responsibility of the driver to report exactly what happened.  Sounds reasonable right?  I mean, the same bus travels the same route everyday.  For the most part both in the morning and in the afternoon.  Sometimes, even at lunch time.  We all know when to leave our home in the morning so we can miss the school buses!

So here is my problem…I know a driver that while making her stops, noticed a truck in her rear view mirror moving around vehicles behind her.  Just trying to move up closer to the bus, probably just wanting to get ahead of the bus so they could move on their way without having to go through the stopping and starting!  Anyway, as the driver continued on her route, she noticed the truck was becoming a little more reckless and it worried her.  She had an aide and four children on the bus and she certainly didn’t want anything to happen.  And can you guess what happened????  You got it, once the truck got close enough, the driver tried to pass the bus, on a back two lane road.  Now, did I mention that the truck was pulling a boat???  Oh yeah, not a little boat either!  The truck then pulled back into the lane with the bus, cutting the bus off.  The school bus had to move over to the side of the road, keeping the bus out of the ditch, avoiding a roll over.  The children, needless to say, were scared to death.  These children, our children, recognized this truck.  This wasn’t the first time they had seen it following the bus.  The driver was able to keep everyone calm and get them to their stops.  Of course, between the aide and the children, asking questions, wanting to know why the truck had done this, and being plain scared, the driver had no choice but to report this to the owner of the bus. 

After she explained to the owner what had happened, who was on the bus, and what she did to protect them, the owner told her she had to write a report and document what had happened.  The driver did just that.  The State Board of Education informed her that she had to go to the courts and make a complaint.  If she didn’t, she could not only lose her job but the parents of these children could sue her.  Of course, she went to the courts and asked how she needed to report this, asking if there was some way to keep the driver of this truck away from her bus during these hours when she was going to be delivering our children home to us after school.  She was told to go to the commissioners office and tell them exactly what had happened to her that afternoon.  The owner and driver did just that.  Thinking that this was over and would be taken care of, our bus driver found out that the State was pressing charges against the owner of this truck.  For each one of our children on the bus, he was charged with reckless endangerment!!!  Yay!!!  This is as it should be, right???  The parents of these children had written letters to the bus owner and driver, asking what was going to be done?  Did the driver report the truck for doing what he did?  Was it going to be safe for their child to ride on the bus? And other questions as well.  Our bus driver protected our children the best way she could.  She followed the rules.  As it should be!!!

Now, the owner of this truck (the business name was on the side of the truck), was arrested.  He was put in jail and charged by the state.  Bail was set.  The local television station put it on the news and the paper reported it.

Now, the school buses have camera’s on them.  The problem is, the camera’s face the children, the mirrors, and out the front of the bus.  The video was reviewed by the Board of Transportation, the bus owner, and I don’t know who else, anyway, it was determined that the company’s name on the truck was not clearly visible and there was no way to prove, absolutely, who this truck belonged to, even though the bus driver knew who this was in the truck. The driver got a notice, letting her know the charges were being dropped.  Again, she didn’t press any charges, she only reported what had happened to her that day, delivering our children to us.

Months go by, the incident put behind her, until…yep, did you guess what happened next???  My friend, this bus driver is now being sued!!!  For what you ask?  For loss of time from work, loss of business because it was reported in the paper and on the news, and punitive damages!!!!  Will someone PLEASE explain to me, how in the world can she be sued for reporting an incident that happened to her and our children, while coming home from school one day???

This bus driver nor the owner placed these charges against the truck driver, the State did that.  They didn’t arrest this truck driver, the State did that.  They didn’t place bail against this truck driver, the court did that.  


Now, she is going to have to go through the trouble and expense of going to court and defending herself.  Why?  Because she was protecting our kids!!!  How in the world, in this day in time, is this legal?  If the driver of this truck’s child was on the bus, don’t you think he would have wanted her to report the incident?  She did her job.

Don’t you think we need to get this around?  Shouldn’t we help our bus drivers out when they are clearly looking out for the best interest of our most precious thing in the world, our children?????

Let me know what you think.  I think our congressmen needs to know this.  I don’t think it should be allowed for this to happen to any bus driver.  There was never a “false” statement made.  Only a statement of the incident!  Oh, and the video can’t be shown in court.  Know why???  To protect our children!


Wacky Wednesday!! :)

Folk, It’s been a while! I have tried to keep my cool and not “explode”. So much has been working on me here lately but, I think I am finally back to my “old” self! hehehe (and I mean old!)
You see, I have been down and out for years with so many health problems. Finally, finally, I am feeling so much better. The spinal simulator is doing its job!! YAY!!! I just haven’t wanted to say too much for fear it would back fire. I’m not used to NOT having pain…I am just amazed. I have been in horrific pain since 2004, now here it is 2013 and I’m down to just about pain-free? I mean sure, at my age people have aches and pains but that is nothing. I can live with that, I even expect to have that, but I can walk, sit, stand, move around! It’s a shame that we take the little things in life for granted. I can tell you from experience, it’s amazing what the body can go through on a daily basis…
Anyway, I just don’t know how to express my thanks to Dr. Dayton-Jones, Dr. McGovern, Todd and everyone at St. Jude’s, and all the nurses, and nurse practitioners that have (and still) work with me. I still have a way to go to get rid of all the pain medications but it’s getting there!!

Now, with all that being said, I want people to understand that when your body seems to be letting you down, your mind soon follows. Is it depression? Could be. I’m sure some of it is but when you can’t even take care of your own daily needs without having help, and you are in your late 40’s and early 50’s, it’s depressing. I went through stages of being mad, hurt, upset, felt sorry for myself, and yes…depressed. Why I would ask. Why would the Lord allow me to “live” like this? It wasn’t living, just existing. I was no good to anyone, including myself. Then I thought…write. I always wanted to write, thought I could just sit to the computer and just do it. And…I did do it. I wrote, and wrote, and wrote.

Now, just because I wrote all these words, doesn’t mean it was ready to be a book! Months and months went into reading, changing, re-reading, changing, spelling, deleting so many of the same word, changing paragraphs, and then…getting someone to read it! Whew…I did it! (So I thought!) More changing, more corrections, more rearranging paragraphs. I was ready to send my “baby” to a publisher! Excited just doesn’t quite express the excitement I experienced, I knew I had a winner!

Then the wait, and the wait, and the wait.  Being a first time writer, you never know what to expect.  You think you have taken almost a year of your life writing, changing, working and instantly a publisher should say, “Oh my, what a great piece of work.  Of course we will publish this right away!” HAHAHA  Let me tell you, things are just beginning.  The rejections, the well, we have so many books similar to this that we just can’t do this now and the out-and-out NO’s.  One day, when you lease expect it, you get a call, “We are willing to publish your book.”  You ask, “Who is this, really?”  You wonder if you really hear those words and ask the person on the other end to repeat themselves.  It is really going to happen!  Your baby is going to be in print, you did it!  Glad that’s done!  Little did I know, that again was another new beginning.  I had no idea just how much work goes into publishing, promoting, and just advocating for your own work.  Then I wondered if I was just foolish to think that anything I would write would be interesting to anyone else.  The roller coaster ride is just unbelievable.  The general public that “read” our works really have absolutely no idea what goes into being an author.  I certainly didn’t.  Sometimes my brain actually hurts.  I have to take a break and just get away from it.  Then there are times when I just can’t stop.  Seems my characters won’t stop running their mouths!  Back and forth, back and forth…if anyone was around me they would know I was ready for a straight jacket.  But, after all this, I can’t quit.  I have to continue what I have started.  My heart tells me this is what I need to do, my brain tells me to get off my butt and write, my family thinks I should write, so…as good or bad as it may be, I am going to continue to do what I love to do….WRITE!!!

The moral to this long story is…DON’T EVER GIVE UP!  Coming from the place I have been, to where I am today has only happened because of my faith, my family, and my wonderful friends.  Thank you to all of you!  I hope I will be able to help you promote your work, just as you are mine!  Together, we will make this happen!!!  (Didn’t someone say this already???)

Suddenly Saturday…

What a tragedy everyone around the United States is facing today. How can any of us fathom all that is going on in the lives of all these victims in CT? I have no way to even suggest that I understand. I have never in my 54 years had to go through anything of this nature.

Prayers, and more prayers is about all we can do at this time. So why, someone tell me why, people want to take GOD out of our schools? Of all places? These children, teachers and staff that have survived this terrible act, will have to one day go back to school. How in our right minds can we tell them it is a safe place? School will never be a “safe” place for these people. It should be but with the many schools that have been affected by someone with “mental” issues; when, where, is this going to happen again?

Is the answer to have guards at the doors? Metal detectors at each door, someone to “wand” any and everybody entering? I can not imagine that. It shouldn’t have to be that way. What can we do?


I do and always will believe in the power of prayer. I also believe that people, most people, don’t think the way this 20 year old boy did. To say he had “mental” issues, is not questioned at all. As I said, anybody who would do such a thing has to have “mental” issues…  He killed his own mother.  What was bothering this boy that much for him to do such a thing?  We will never know, I’m sure.

All I can offer to this town, is prayer.  I will keep them all in my thoughts and prayers.

Please hug your children, mothers, fathers, grandparents, and of your family members, even your neighbors.  Just a plain HUG can do wonders.  It lets us know you care!


Remember this is just my opinion.  I realize not everyone believes in the “GOD” I believe in but whom ever you pray to, PLEASE, PLEASE  continue to lift this community up!

Thank you all so very much for reading my blogs.  Feel free to leave a comment.

Wacky, wonderful Wednesday, December 5, 2012

The Next Big Thing Blog Hop

December 4, 2012

I’d like to thank DeEtte Beckstead at http://deetteanderton.wordpress.com/  for tagging me in the Next Big Thing Blog tour.

The Next Big Thing Blog Hop with Terri Dryden, author of “A Passage in the Dark”

This is my project that hasn’t been published yet…hopefully next year!!!

What is the working title of your book?                 

A Passage in the Dark

Where did the idea come from for the book?

The idea for this book just seemed to come from the characters as I wrote.  I always enjoyed mysteries as a girl.  Nancy Drew and The Hardy Boys were my favorite!

What genre does your book fall under?        

I would say teenager, mystery, adventure.

Which actors would you choose to play your characters in a movie rendition?    

I really don’t know which actors I would choose.  I don’t watch many movies (Titanic was the last move I saw at a movie theater), so I don’t know who the young actors are these days.  A sweet, adventurous girl for the main character, a studious young man (not a non-social boy but one who likes the arts) The parents, hmmm.. let me see, hard-working, loving couple, very involved with their children.

What is the one-sentence synopsis of your book?

One way or another Ellen is going to find out what this house is all about and the secrets it holds.

Will your book be self-published or represented by an agency?      

I want my book to be published by an agency.

How long did it take you to write the first draft of your manuscript?      

The actually was the first book I wrote.  I started it July 14, 2009 and finished it October 30, 2009.

What other books would you compare this story to within your genre?  

As I said earlier, the Nancy Drew series was my favorite as a child.  I would say this would be most like these series.

Who or what inspired you to write this book?                                           

I have always “written” but a friend of mine, author Katrina Wampler, really talked me into writing a book.

What else about your book might pique the reader’s interest?    

This book has many twists and turns.  It will make you laugh, and cry, and will keep you guessing about what is going to happen next,  Anyone with a brother and/or sister will be able to relate to Ellen and what she goes through!

* * * * * Next to join the Hop are:

Alycia Adams Neighbours     http://alycianeighbours.com/

Aurora Morealist  http://Auroramorealist.wordpress.com/

Dana Neal  http://essenceofawoman.blogspot.com/

Amanda George  http://amandageorgeuk.blogspot.co.uk/

Fabulous Friday!!! November 30, 2012

Okay…I’m going to try this again!  I just wrote a long blog and it went into computer cyber space! I guess I better not make this one so long!! hehehe

Anyway, I explained some of all my issues in my last blog but I want to again, get this message out to everyone.  DON’T EVER STOP BEING AN ADVOCATE FOR YOURSELF…

I have been on narcotic pain medication since 2005.  Even after the surgeries, I had to take the pain medications.  I have been going to pain management doctors, trying to figure out what combination of medication would allow me to function with a minimal amount of pain.  I’m not even going to list all the medications, there are just too many but the end result has been that I take all these narcotics just to have pain at a level I could tolerate.  The catch has been, if I get the pain to a tolerable level, I was in bed because I couldn’t function under the influence of the drugs.  If I didn’t take the drugs, so that I could function, I couldn’t function because of the pain.  Such a darn viscous cycle.  Now don’t get me wrong, sometimes I would have a day here and there where I thought, well, I can survive today without all the medication.  Then I would over do  and end up in bed for 3 or 4 days.  It has been so depressing.  What kind of life is that.  Half knocked out on drugs, or suffering with pain.  It’s no life.  When you have to have your husband, or wife, help you get dressed, because the pain is so bad…, I mean, I had days when I could barely brush my own teeth.

Not only do you fight the constant back and forth with pain medications, I had to fight with the insurance disability company.  I mean, you pay for long term disability, so if something like this happens, at least you get some pay.  I am even getting Social Security Disability.  They say I’m disabled but the insurance company says I can work because I can work on the computer a few hours a day!  I wonder if they would want me working on the floor (I’m a nurse), and take care of their loved one!  I wouldn’t even want to take care of my own loved one!! hahaha

But these are the things you have to deal with if you are disabled.  But I won’t say anymore about that now…..

I started seeing Dr. Dayton-Jones for pain management.  My medications had to be changed, increased, more medications added, etc.  I had been told by my previous pain management doctor, about the spinal stimulator.  He tried to get me approved but because I had a pace maker, I wasn’t a candidate.  I didn’t give up.  When I saw the new physician, she also talked to me about the stimulator.  I worked with my cardiologist and the representative from Boston Scientific (company for the pacemaker) to get approval.  Finally, Dr. Frey cleared me for the trial stimulator!!!  The purpose of the stimulator is to block the pain sensors going to the brain.  Kinda fooling the body.

In September of this year, Dr. Dayton-Jones implanted the temporary stimulator.  I felt immediate relief.  I was to continue with my medications while using the stimulator.  The idea is that if the stimulator can reduce the pain in half with the meds, it will do the same without meds.  So lets say, on a scale of 1 to 10, your pain is an 8, with the stimulator, it will drop to a 4.  Now, I’m not normal, as we all know, and my pain dropped further than half.  I thought I could do cartwheels!!! I kept the stimulator for a week.  Then the temporary had to come out (risk of infection).  I literally cried.  I hadn’t felt this good in years.  It was terrible knowing I was going to have to go back to that pain.  They promised me I wouldn’t have to wait long for the permanent stimulator to be implanted.  Now, this is a major back surgery but I can’t tell you how happy I was to be having another surgery.  I knew this one was going to be a life changing surgery, one that was going to make me feel human again!  Surgery was scheduled for November 15th, I couldn’t wait!

Now lets jump ahead to present day.  I went yesterday for my two week check up.  People, let me tell you,  Dr. McGovern has to be the best doctor I have seen in a very long, long, time.  Todd with St. Judes is also WONDERFUL!  These two men have given me my life back!  I feel like I am going to be a whole person again!  There is no way I could ever repay them.

Thank you both, from the bottom of my heart!